The Tactless Tongue - Day 17 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Harsh Tongue, The Know It All Tongue, The Belittling Tongue, The Betraying Tongue, The Meddling Tongue, The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Tactless Tongue - Day 17 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

Let your conversation be gracious and effective so that you will have the right answer for everyone (Col 4:6)

• Daniel tactfully requested permission to eat kosher
• Speak with sensitivity and not offensively in difficult or problematic situations
• "How painful are honest words" - Job 6:25
• Yahshua was gracious in telling the truth
• Is there a mean spirit or anger or frustration disappointment or retaliation even when saying the truth
• "A truth told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent"- William Blake
• Apologize for tactlessness  
• Delay speaking to evaluate how our words will impact a person and seek the Rouach Kodesh (Holy Spirit) to lead you
• Develop emotional discipline to control tact
• "My words are seasoned with grace as I speak truth in love"

The Harsh Tongue - Day 16 "30 Days to Taming Young Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Know It All Tongue, The Belittling Tongue, The Betraying Tongue, The Meddling Tongue, The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Harsh Tongue - Day 16 "30 Days to Taming Young Tongue" 

A gentile answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)
The ideal woman in proverbs "She opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness" (Proverbs 21:26)

• There is no justification for harsh or unkind talk 
• Deliberately choose words that are warmhearted, understanding, and sympathetic 
• Make a habit of speaking kindly
• Before approaching anyone go to Yahweh and get his words
• We cannot achieve Yahweh's purpose while being harsh
• Harsh words never die, they can impact a person for life
• Seek Yahweh for deliverance from speaking harshly when angry  

As the saying goes, you get more flies with honey than with vinegar. A kind word goes much farther than a harsh word. If you ask someone for correction in a kind manner rather than in a harsh critique you will get a better response, and you will be more favorable in their eyes. Also speaking kindly will also make you more happy. No one is ever happy after they yell. 

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The Know It All Tongue - Day 15 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Belittling Tongue, The Betraying Tongue, The Meddling Tongue, The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Know It All Tongue - Day 15 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• A prudent man conceals his knowledge (Proverbs 12:23)
• Instead of saying "you should" say "have you considered"
• Wise people don't make a show of their knowledge (Proverbs 12:23)
• Assuming the role of arrogant expert is an indication of pride
• Allow someone to tell you something without saying "I already knew that"
• Do not always question the validity of someone's statement
• Don't be the person to always looks it up on google to disprove them
• Displaying intellectual superiority will alienate others making them feel inferior 
• Listen to others, resist correcting or contradicting others, limit input to one or two points
• - mutual sharing of ideas
• Consider the possibly that you may be wrong

(Proverbs 3:7 HRB)  Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear YAHWEH and depart from evil.

(Proverbs 13:10 HRB)  Arguing only comes by pride, but wisdom is with those who take advice.

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The Belittling Tongue - Day 14 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Betraying Tongue, The Meddling Tongue, The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Belittling Tongue - Day 14 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Aim to make people feel better about themselves after spending time with you
• A belitter...
• - focuses on the shortcomings rather than assets 
• - makes themselves feel better by degrading others
• Act like a cheerleader or coach
• Helping someone and lots of communication will often yield productivity and loyalty 
• Affirm people, reassure them 
• Resist the temptation to constantly "fix" something about them 

(Ephesians 4:29 The Scriptures 1998+)  Let no corrupt word come out of your mouth, but only such as is good for the use of building up, so as to impart what is pleasant to the hearers.

(1 Thessalonians 5:11 The Scriptures 1998+)  Therefore encourage one another, and build up one another, as indeed you do.

It is easy to find faults in someone, but resist. Instead focus on their strengths. Encourage them to do well, instead of pointing out how they did wrong. This is especially important for the relationship with our spouses and children. These are the the most important relationships we have, it would be extremely hurtful to be belittled by someone you care so much about. If yo don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. 

The Betraying Tongue - Day 13 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Meddling Tongue, The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Betraying Tongue - Day 13 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• A betrayer divulges info in breach of a confidence
• Gives information to the "enemy"
• Commits relational treason by violating the trust someone has placed in them
• Strive to be a trustworthy person whom others can depend upon to guard their private information
• Do not be tempted by bribery to betray someone 
• - Delia and Judas were both bribed when they betrayed 

(Matthew 27:3-4 TLV)  Then Judah, His betrayer, saw that Yeshua had been condemned. Feeling remorse, he brought the thirty silver pieces back to the ruling kohanim (priests)  and elders,  (4)  saying, “I’ve sinned, betraying innocent blood!” But they said, “What’s that to us? You see to it yourself!”

(Psalms 41:9 The Scriptures 1998+)  Even my own friend in whom I trusted, who ate my bread, Has lifted up his heel against me.

(Psalms 55:12-13 The Scriptures 1998+)  (12)  It is not an enemy who reproaches me – That I could bear; Nor one who hates me who is making himself great against me – Then I could hide from him.  (13)  But it was you, a man my equal, My companion and my friend.

We need to keep our friendships. We do not need to become the enemy of our friends by betraying them. Even Yahshua who was righteous had close friends betray him.

(Matthew 6:14-15 The Scriptures 1998+)  (14)  “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father shall also forgive you.  (15)  “But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither shall your Father forgive your trespasses.

If you find yourself being betrayed by a friend, we are still called to forgive them.

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The Meddling Tongue - Day 12 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Meddling Tongue - Day 12 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Seek personal info directly from the person
• Are you genuinely concerned or just plain curious?
• Even if a person has given you a pass, still be careful to go there
• - pray before asking for information
• Do you meddle to try to control things for your own desired objectives?
• Or are you genuinely concerned for their sinful state?
• Pray the Rouach Kodesh (Holy Spirit) would convict them
• If you do not know something concrete as evidence then when you seek information you are meddling 

(Proverbs 26:17 The Scriptures 1998+)  A passer-by meddling in a strife not his own Is like one who takes a dog by the ears.

 (1 Thessalonians 4:11 GNB)  Make it your aim to live a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to earn your own living, just as we told you before.

May Yahweh give us discernment in knowing when we are to express concern as our brother's keeper, and when to not mettle.

The Gossiping Tongue - Day 11 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Gossiping Tongue - Day 11 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Gossip is idle or malicious talk about the personal affairs of another
• Gossiping can lower your sense of self worth
• Catch yourself before harm happens 
• Why do you do it?
• - Attention?
• - Envy?
• - To feel superior
• Make it a point to abstain  

(Proverbs 18:8 ERV)  People love to hear gossip. It is like tasty food on its way to the stomach.

Staying away from gossip is something you have to be intentional about, because as it reads - gossip is "tasty." You will be tempted to listen to the gossip, and may even be tempted to take part it in, but resist. You need to stand up for righteousness. You need to be the shining light for righteousness in the face of gossip. 

(Matthew 5:16 RNKJV)  Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

The Slandering Tongue - Day 10 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Slandering Tongue - Day 10 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Slanders are people who make malicious, false, or even true statements about other with the intent of damaging the reputation, character or good name
• Spout detracting remarks
• Often because the person envy's or has pain from being hurt from them 
• Some people are insecure and easily threatened and feel the need to slander their competition to secure their own 
• Yahweh has secured our destiny and has promised to avenge all wrongs against you
• No need to rely on your own means

(Proverbs 10:18 The Scriptures 1998+)  He who hides hatred has lying lips, And he who sends out a slander is a fool.

We have to be careful about saying slanderous statements about people, especially on social media. That post will be seen by many people, and every person who sees it now has a negative vision of the person you slandered. Now every time they think of that person they think of the negative thing you said. Even jokes are slander. Every time someone reads that comment, that is another sin against your neighbor.

(Proverbs 30:10 The Scriptures 1998+)  Do not slander a servant to his master, Lest he curse you, And you be found guilty.

Be careful what you say in the workplace. Do not slander a co-worker to the boss. You are ruining their livelihood. You might be stealing how they make money by ruining their reputation at work. The warning is that your co-worked may curse you and you be found guilty. It will come to bite you in the butt. 

(Ephesians 4:31-32 The Scriptures 1998+)  (31)  Let all bitterness, and wrath, and displeasure, and uproar, and slander be put away from you, along with all evil.  (32)  And be kind towards one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as Elohim also forgave you in Messiah.

The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

Self-Depreciation is:

• When you think or speak of yourself as being of little or no worth and thereby minimizing the value of what you have to offer.
• A rejection of the word of Yahweh which says we can do all things through Messiah who strengthens us. (Philippians 4:13)

Satan seeks to take us to one extreme to another Boastful <-----------> Bashful

• What you call yourself is only what is important
• - Let yourself be empowered by positive thoughts about yourself
• - Thoughts of discouragement are of the Adversary 
• We can't be defined by our experience or circumstance
• We must reject the spirit of inadequacy

(Exodus 4:10-12 HRB)  And Moses said to YAHWEH, O YAHWEH, I am not a man of words, either from yesterday or the third day, nor since You have been speaking to Your bondslave. For I am heavy of mouth and heavy of tongue.  (11)  And YAHWEH said to him, Who has made man's mouth? Or who makes the dumb, or the deaf, or the seeing, or the blind? Is it not I, YAHWEH?  (12)  And now go, and I will be with your mouth, and will teach you what you shall speak.

Moses said a self-depreciating comment about his speaking. What did Yahweh say,  I made you, I will be with you to teach you how to speak. The same goes for us in our inadequacy. Yahweh will teach you to do better. Yahweh can make all things happen. And it will be for His Name Sake. Yahweh uses our weakness so that His Name will be made strong.

Next time you feel tempted to say a self-depreciating comment about yourself. Say instead. I may not be good at ____ but by the power of Yahweh I will be able to. And recite "I can do all things through Messiah; the One giving me strength. (Philippians 4:13 HRB)"

The Boasting Tongue - Day 8 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Boasting Tongue - Day 8 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Boasting implies that your good fortune is a result of your own efforts
• Whatever skills or talents Yahweh has given you are for His Glory

(Proverbs 27:1-2 The Scriptures 1998+)  (1)  Do not boast of tomorrow, For you do not know what a day brings forth.  (2)  Let another man praise you, And not your own mouth – A stranger, and not your own lips.

(1 Corinthians 15:10 HRB)  But by the grace of YAHWEH I am what I am, and His grace which was toward me has not been without fruit, but I labored more abundantly than all of them, yet not I, but the grace of YAHWEH that is within me.

All glory belongs to Yahweh. We should not boast ourselves. 

The Manipulating Tongue - Day 7 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Manipulating Tongue - Day 7 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Manipulation is crafty use of the tongue and a self-perpetuation vice 
• - in order to achieve an objective
• Tactics of a manipulating tongue
• - guilt trips 
• - portraying as innocent 
•  - "suffering victim"
• Discernment needs to be used to detect manipulation 
• Manipulators loose all credibility when they get caught
• That person would be judged as having ulterior motives
• Those people need to be confronted
• Manipulation is the practice of the Adversary 

(Genesis 3:1 The Scriptures 1998+)  And the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which YHWH Elohim had made, and he said to the woman, “Is it true that Elohim has said, ‘Do not eat of every tree of the garden’?”

(Job 5:8-13 The Scriptures 1998+)  (8)  But as for me, I would seek El, and I would submit my case to Elohim,  (9)  who is doing great and unsearchable deeds, innumerable wonders,  (10)  who is giving rain on the earth’s face, and is sending waters on the field’s face;  (11)  to set the lowly on high, and those who mourn shall be lifted to safety,  (12)  thwarting the schemes of the crafty, so that their hands do not work effectively;  (13)  catching the wise in their own craftiness, and the counsel of schemers are swept away.

Job 5:8-13 is a warning to the manipulators. Yahweh will thwart your manipulative schemes. We do not want our behavior to be similar to the Adversary. We need to be on guard and test every action to the Will or Torah of Yahweh. Yahweh will not lead you into a trap. Follow His commands and you will not be tricked by a manipulator. If you find yourself being tempted into crafting your own will. Be warned Yahweh will cause your plan to go awry. Yahweh cannot be tricked. Do not trick others.  

Proverbs 4:24-27 RNKJV  Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee.  (25)  Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee.  (26)  Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established.  (27)  Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: remove thy foot from evil.

  

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The Argumentative Tongue - Day 6 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Argumentative Tongue - Day 6 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

Traits of an Argumentative Person:

• Directly Resists anyone's view point that is different 
• Stay on alert to find anything they can discuss that will get someone defensive 

2  Types
  1)  Grew up with arguments as a pattern or a way of life
  2) They quarrel to support their own self worth - defensive in order to build self esteem

• People's minds are changed through observation not argument 
• A person who quarrels will start another argument when they have no more material  
• They resort to personal attacks when they have no logical points left

As a person of faith we need to disagree without being disagreeable. Remain loving

• Say okay that's your opinion 
• It costs nothing to respect an opinion 
• People who don't like quarreling will avoid talking to quarrelers
• It is too stressful for them to walk on egg shells trying to limit conversations to not debate 

(Proverbs 20:3 GNB)  Any fool can start arguments; the honorable thing is to stay out of them.

(2 Timothy 2:24 The Scriptures 1998+)  And a servant of the Master should not quarrel but be gentle towards all, able to teach, patient when wronged,

 (Proverbs 21:19 ERV)  It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quick-tempered wife who loves to argue.

(Proverbs 19:13 HRB)  A foolish son is a ruin to his father, and a wife's quarreling a never ending dripping.

(Proverbs 25:24 ERV)  It is better to live in a small corner of the roof than to share the house with a woman who is always arguing.

(Proverbs 13:10 ERV)  Pride causes arguments, but those who listen to others are wise.

(Titus 3:2, 9-11 - The Scriptures 1998+)  (2)  not to slander anyone, not to be quarrelsome, to be gentle, showing all meekness to all men. .... (9)  But keep away from foolish questions, and genealogies, and strife and quarrels about the Torah, for they are unprofitable and useless.  (10)  Reject a divisive man after the first and second warning,  (11)  knowing that such a one has been perverted, and sins, being self-condemned.

Above all else we need to be loving. When you love someone you let them have their own opinion, and do not try to convince them of yours. We can validate other opinions without agreeing with them. We need to take the warning from Titus and do not argue about matters of Torah. We need to have love in giving knowledge. We can give someone information about our religious beliefs without arguing. We have to be respectful, and kind. 

The Divisive Tongue - Day 5 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Divisive Tongue - Day 5 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Divide & Conquer is Satan's goal
• Avoid picking fights
• Satan will cause us to become offended over harmless statements: 
1. Satan will make us read more meaning into a statement than was intended
2. Satan will make us believe someone has impure motives
3. Satan will make us believe lies
• Telling someone else will cause division - avoid gossip
• Keep your opinions to yourself, if it will cause division
1. Peace is more important than making sure you are right or that your opinion is heard

(Proverbs 20:3) Avoiding a fight is a mark of honor; only fools insist on quarreling

(Proverbs 17:14) Beginning a quarrel is like opening a floodgate, so drop the matter before dispute breaks out.

(Ephesians 6:12 HRB)  For our conflict is not with flesh and blood, but with principalities, and with those in authority, and with the possessors of this dark world, and with the evil spirits that are beneath heaven.

The divisive tongue is something that is truly the plan of the devil. We have to be on guard. Yahweh does not want us to be separate from brethren, or family. We have to always seek peace. Many of us have our own opinions, and we want them to be heard. Sometimes it is better to keep your opinions to yourself to prevent quarreling - especially in something such as politics. If you know there is a sensitive topic, say with your family, and you feel like it would benefit you more to keep your opinions to yourself then do it. Seek Peace (Shalom). You want to keep a relationship with your family so just hold your tongue. Let it pass. Have assurance in your choice to stay quiet, because you want to be like Yahushua. 

• Goal: become an agent of peace trying to reconcile conflict

Come back to http://alyse2232.blogspot.com/ (bookmark it) for tomorrow's blog "The Argumentative Tongue".  

The Hasty Tongue - Day 4 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Hasty Tongue - Day 4 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

The Hasty Tongue is one I struggle with major. It goes back to yesterday's lesson - Temptation's Strategy. We have to think on thoughts that are pleasing to Yahweh, so we do not say things that hurt other people and dishonor Yahweh. Not only saying the wrong thing, but talking out of turn, and not giving other people the opportunity to be heard.

Surprisingly in my notebook I have very little written on the hasty tongue, but stick around because there is a lot to be learned from these bullets:

• Depend on the Rouach Ha Kodesh (The Holy Spirit) to direct your speech
• Listen carefully before answering
• Don't be quick to make a promise
• Before Speaking:

1. 1) Stop
2. 2) Think
3. 3) Pray

The thing I am learning most in my internship is to listen. That is one reason why I wasn't good at mental health counseling. I wanted to talk too much. Even now as a recreational therapist I am tempted to just keep talking. My adviser has said that I need to give even more time for them to soak it in and process. 

I think when we are talking to people sometimes we are thinking about the next thing we are going to say and forget about listening to the person who is talking. We need to be considerate that they have something important they want to express. 

Do not be quick to make a promise. Yahweh teaches us to keep our promises. He also teaches us to only take one day at a time. 

(James 4:13-17 The Scriptures 1998+)  (13)  Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow, let us go to such and such a city, spend a year there, and trade, and make a profit,”  (14)  when you do not know of tomorrow. For what is your life? For it is a vapour that appears for a little, and then disappears –  (15)  instead of your saying, “If the Master desires, we shall live and do this or that.”  (16)  But now you boast in your proud speeches. All such boasting is wicked.  (17)  To him, then, who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.

We should be hasty to say "If Yah Will's it" I will do such and such. "If Yah Will's it" I will come next week, instead of being hasty to say "I will do it," or "I will go." We need to be aware that we are not not in control. Yahweh has a path for our life. What we plan may or may not what He has planned. We need to always give Honor to Yahweh for His timing., and His power to control our path or commitments. It even says it it a sin to not do something you said you would. eek. We need to repent of our lack of commitment to our word. Try your best if it is still possible to do the thing you said you would. If not apologize and be better next time. Every word will be written down and the adversary will testify against us. Let us honor Yahweh by not making commitments that we cannot keep. Our life is but a vapor in the wind. Yahweh is the one who is in control.

Depend on the Rouach Ha Kodesh (Holy Spirit) to direct your speech. I have been blessed with the presence of the Rouach Ha Kodesh. I say this, because I have testimony of when I have let the Rouach lead my conversation. The person I was talking to expressed gratitude, and said that is what they needed to hear. We have to take every opportunity to speak Life and to speak our Testimony to others. We all have a testimony that can reach others. You never know. Simply just stating gratitude and praise to Master Yahweh we can bring light and hope for others

(Psalms 105:1 HRB)  O give thanks to YAHWEH; call on His name; make His deeds known among the peoples.

Come back tomorrow to http://alyse2232.blogspot.com/ (bookmark it) for tomorrow's blog "The Divisive Tongue".

Temptation's Strategy - Day 3 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

Temptation's Strategy - Day 3 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Confuse Reality
• Make evil seem good
• Exaggerates the truth or falsifies to bring us into believing the lie 
• Makes us question the character of Yahweh
• Leads us to concentrate on the temptation instead of Yahweh
• - focus on cons rather than on pros
• Always pay close attention to the details of what Yahweh tells us; if we don't the devil will skew our thoughts

(Genesis 3:1-6 RNKJV)  Now the serpent was more subtitle than any beast of the field which YHWH Elohim had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath Elohim said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?  (2)  And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden:  (3)  But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, Elohim hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.  (4)  And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:  (5)  For Elohim doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be like Elohim, knowing good and evil.  (6)  And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.

We need to learn the ways of the enemy. The notes I have are clearly shown in the story of the original sin. The adversary confused reality, made evil seem good, and made her question that Yahweh did not have her best interests in mind - you shall surely not die but on contrary you will be made wise. It was evil for her to know those things. If only she could have stayed innocent and loved Yahweh for eternity.

(James 1:14 ESV)  But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire.

We have to be careful of our own desires. Are our desires the same as Yahweh. We need to be careful that we first obey the commands of Yahweh, then our desires must not go contrary to those commands. We need to honor Yahweh in all we do.

(Genesis 4:7 ESV)  If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door. Its desire is for you, but you must rule over it."

The below picture is the Hebrew phrase you must rule over it. Taken from Gen 4:7. I am a testimony when you meditate on that scripture you can overcome the strongholds of sin in your life. When you replace the temptation of sin with "Tim-Sal-Bow" (Hebrew pronunciation) - "You must rule over it," (English translation) You too can overcome strongholds. 

We must resist the temptation to say something that does not give glory to Yahweh. You must rule over it - Tim-Sal-Bow. We will be accountable to every word that comes out of our mouth at judgement day.

Come back to my blog @ http://alyse2232.blogspot.com/ (bookmark it) for tomorrow's blog "The Hasty Tongue" 

The Flattering Tongue - Day 2 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson, and other commentary from my own reflection.

The Flattering Tongue - Day 2

• People flatter to get favors in return
• Favor is a benefit from Yahweh - of being in right standing with Him
• The Children of Yahweh do not need to resort to any form of self effort
• Yahweh destroys those skilled at flattery
• Flattery's motive is to gain favor in the one they flatter 
• - Gain material tangible  stuff 
• - Gain intangible stuff like acceptance
• Favor is a fringe benefit of being in right standing with our creator
• - Not gained by flattery
• The children of the Most High never had to resort to any form of self effort in  order to ingratiate themselves for gain or survival
• When you flatter your words will wilt and loose all impact

(Psalm 5:12) For Surely, Oh Yahweh, you bless the righteous; you surround them with your favor as with a shield.

(Psalms 12:3 RNKJV)  YHWH shall cut off all flattering lips, and the tongue that speaketh proud things:

Romans 2:1-8 Therefore I urge you, brothers, in view of Yahweh's mercy to offer your bodies as  living sacrifices Kodesh (holy) and pleasing to Yahweh - this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Yahweh's will is - his good, pleasing and perfect will

[The following was taken from the journal when I did this study many years ago]

I have offered my self as a living sacrifice to Yahweh and I feel like his is revealing his Will to me, yet it is getting confusing. Is it really the truth? "Do not conform to the pattern of the world" but I also have to obey my parents. What should I do? It says test and approve Yahweh's will which is where I am; I am trying to find out what is the Will of Yahweh for me. Yahweh please give me clarity and discernment.

[Current Live Commentary about my past]

There was a time in my life where I was searching for the Will of Yahweh. In the christian churches they teach about the Will of Yahweh. They teach about this "mystical" Will. Like Yahweh himself will tell you exactly what to do with your life. What job to take or what education to take. I learned later that scripture tells us what the Will of Yahweh is. You can read about it in my Facebook note click here to read it.

I do know that it was a very critical moment in my life when I decided to honor my parents when choosing a spouse for myself. How could I be doing the Will of Yahweh if they did not approve of the guy I was dating. I severed that relationship and I am happy that I did. Yahweh had BETTER plans for me and gave me the man of my dreams Christopher Morgan.

So how does all this relate to the Flattering tongue? Well I assume some people may flatter you to get what they want? It is manipulative. I would assume the guy I was dating was flattering me to manipulate me to look over all his faults. Yahweh wants to speak truth to your life. He wants you to speak truth in other people's lives. You might be disrupting the Will of Yahweh by using the flattering tongue. Yahweh likes people's faults to be exposed. He wants to mold us and shape us so that His Name will be glorified. Not your name.

Come back to http://alyse2232.blogspot.com/ (bookmark it) for tomorrow's blog "Temptation's Strategy"

The Lying Tongue - Day 1 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

Day 1 The Lying Tongue

• Any intent to deceive is a lie period.
• Half truths
• Exaggerating: a person stretches the truth to make something sound more believable, but then he looses his credibility, because he exaggerates
• Also makes the person we are talking about loose pride in the truth of their behavior 

Some times we like to exaggerate, and we think it is a good thing. We are just saying the "truth" but just magnifying it...But what impression does this give to someone. Did the bible exaggerate? I sure hope not. I take the bible as literal accounts. Did David really obtain 200 foreskins?

(1 Samuel 18:27 RNKJV)  Wherefore David arose and went, he and his men, and slew of the Philistines two hundred men; and David brought their foreskins, and they gave them in full tale to the king, that he might be the king's son in law. And Saul gave him Michal his daughter to wife.

I believe the bible tells the story true, without exaggerating. If we exaggerate a story about a person, we actually end up hurting them than exhaling them. If we told this story and said David obtained 300 foreskins, then we would act like the real 200 wasn't enough. This would make David feel inferior. Like his deeds weren't enough for the story to have an impact on the readers.

Even when telling stories, try to abstain from the lying tongue and do not exaggerate.

Come back to http://alyse2232.blogspot.com/ (bookmark it) for Day 2 - "The Flattering Tongue"