The Belittling Tongue - Day 14 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Betraying Tongue, The Meddling Tongue, The Gossiping Tongue, The Slandering Tongue, The Self-Depreciating Tongue - Day 9, The Boasting Tongue, The Manipulating Tongue,  The Argumentative Tongue Day 6, The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Belittling Tongue - Day 14 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

• Aim to make people feel better about themselves after spending time with you
• A belitter...
• - focuses on the shortcomings rather than assets 
• - makes themselves feel better by degrading others
• Act like a cheerleader or coach
• Helping someone and lots of communication will often yield productivity and loyalty 
• Affirm people, reassure them 
• Resist the temptation to constantly "fix" something about them 

(Ephesians 4:29 The Scriptures 1998+)  Let no corrupt word come out of your mouth, but only such as is good for the use of building up, so as to impart what is pleasant to the hearers.

(1 Thessalonians 5:11 The Scriptures 1998+)  Therefore encourage one another, and build up one another, as indeed you do.

It is easy to find faults in someone, but resist. Instead focus on their strengths. Encourage them to do well, instead of pointing out how they did wrong. This is especially important for the relationship with our spouses and children. These are the the most important relationships we have, it would be extremely hurtful to be belittled by someone you care so much about. If yo don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all.