The Argumentative Tongue - Day 6 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

I am doing a study on "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue". Come along with me as we look at how we can honor Yahushua with the words we say.

This study is based on the book "30 Days to Taming you Tongue" by Deborah Smith Pegues
Read Reviews and Links to buy the book at Good Reads.

What I will be writing here is notes I have from when I read the book. It is designed to give you an overview of major points in that day's lesson. And other commentary from my own reflection.

So far we have done: The Divisive Tongue Day 5, The Hasty Tongue Day 4, Temptations Strategy Day 3, The Flattering Tongue Day 2, and The Lying Tongue Day 1. Click on the links to catch up.

The Argumentative Tongue - Day 6 "30 Days to Taming Your Tongue"

Traits of an Argumentative Person:

• Directly Resists anyone's view point that is different 
• Stay on alert to find anything they can discuss that will get someone defensive 

2  Types
  1)  Grew up with arguments as a pattern or a way of life
  2) They quarrel to support their own self worth - defensive in order to build self esteem

• People's minds are changed through observation not argument 
• A person who quarrels will start another argument when they have no more material  
• They resort to personal attacks when they have no logical points left

As a person of faith we need to disagree without being disagreeable. Remain loving

• Say okay that's your opinion 
• It costs nothing to respect an opinion 
• People who don't like quarreling will avoid talking to quarrelers
• It is too stressful for them to walk on egg shells trying to limit conversations to not debate 

(Proverbs 20:3 GNB)  Any fool can start arguments; the honorable thing is to stay out of them.

(2 Timothy 2:24 The Scriptures 1998+)  And a servant of the Master should not quarrel but be gentle towards all, able to teach, patient when wronged,

 (Proverbs 21:19 ERV)  It is better to live alone in the desert than with a quick-tempered wife who loves to argue.

(Proverbs 19:13 HRB)  A foolish son is a ruin to his father, and a wife's quarreling a never ending dripping.

(Proverbs 25:24 ERV)  It is better to live in a small corner of the roof than to share the house with a woman who is always arguing.

(Proverbs 13:10 ERV)  Pride causes arguments, but those who listen to others are wise.

(Titus 3:2, 9-11 - The Scriptures 1998+)  (2)  not to slander anyone, not to be quarrelsome, to be gentle, showing all meekness to all men. .... (9)  But keep away from foolish questions, and genealogies, and strife and quarrels about the Torah, for they are unprofitable and useless.  (10)  Reject a divisive man after the first and second warning,  (11)  knowing that such a one has been perverted, and sins, being self-condemned.

Above all else we need to be loving. When you love someone you let them have their own opinion, and do not try to convince them of yours. We can validate other opinions without agreeing with them. We need to take the warning from Titus and do not argue about matters of Torah. We need to have love in giving knowledge. We can give someone information about our religious beliefs without arguing. We have to be respectful, and kind.